It’s a bit of a struggle, signing up to altruism again.
My father-in-law died early last year. He died, to my wife’s huge surprise, a rich man; but not really beloved. No one who lived with him, who we presume knew how rich he was, ever suggested he use his resource for the palliative care he deserved – nor even the surgery that might have helped.
Instead, he hung grimly on as the Spanish public health system permanently postponed this action or that.
Any inheritance out of that could hardly be described as anything but blood money.
My wife had to take out a loan for the legal fees and death taxes. She’s still paying it; still finding it challenging.
We all are, as a family: my kids lives are on slo-mo, in fact … they were looking forward to start learning paths you only get the change to achieve once in a lifetime.
But, on the other hand, if that “once in a lifetime” is based on blood money … well, how on earth do you think that might make anyone feel?
We were assured some of the money would reach us by November.
It’s awful – though no more awful than for much of the austerity-hit world – not to know if you can pay your next bills.
Anyhow. The bank in question, a truly dreadful bank, recently froze all the resource that my wife supposedly had coming to her: it said it needed a document. We sent the document via Royal Mail international tracking, at the cost of seven quid – instead of the assured two or three days, it took a whole week to arrive.
The bank rejected the signed document because my wife hadn’t known to put a tick in a box. It was obvious from their initial request, once explained the four alternatives, which was needed.
It was the giving of a new address.
Even so, they refused to authorise the tick via security questions or registered email – or even from within my wife’s online access.
They blamed the Spanish authorities.
They asked for a repeat document; they refused to allow a fax.
The repeat document was sent on Monday 26th January. It sat with Royal Mail for two days, somewhere in Britain.
Then it sat for two days with the Spanish postal service.
It still hadn’t been delivered last night.
It cost seven quid to send; less than 20g in weight; a standard-size envelope.
Meanwhile, once received the properly completed document, the bank’s representative added a little suspiciously, maybe even a little darkly, its legal department would then take a decision as to whether the funds could be released. After having the week before assured my wife it was the only document needed.
Prior to all the above, they’d had her waiting fifteen days for a cheque book they at first suggested was all she needed to transfer funds, only then not to contact her when the legal department stepped in and decided no go.
It’s one of the worst banks in the world. I won’t say which, but if you’re a grammar fiend, it’s definitely not the infinitive!
Why am I telling you this in a post titled as this one is?
Because, in an austerity world, the lizards are still playing the game of “Us vs Them”. At least, that’s what I suspect. You can only be allowed to easily access the kind of funds which do indeed change lives, hopes and futures, if you are prepared to become far more like “Us”; if you are prepared to stop being the “Them” you’ve always been.
That’s how I feel it, anyway; at least in my fragile and vulnerable present.
I may be wrong: it may be utter incompetence. But Spain is different: they use the cloak of incompetence to get stuff done at the expense of the deserving.
Perhaps, actually it’s not that different: isn’t that what the British Coalition has spent its time doing for five long years?
The real mental suffering my wife has been exposed to by her family is only compounded by the bureaucratic wheels neither of us have any understanding of.
At least one member of her family is probably certifiably psychotic; the other, about as passive-aggressive as they come.
And if we look at what’s happened to my sad, little, suffering family, writ so small and insignificantly as it is, and as it has been over the past year, so we can make a wider comparison to what has been writ large across the global austerity stage.
Austerity is not a tool but a weapon. It’s designed to prevent people having the comfort, security, incentive and motivation to explain sensibly, rationally, thoughtfully and constructively enough why things just must be done in a completely different way.
We are all, all of us, all of us who still belong to the “Them”, running terrified of what’s going to happen next.
In that, the comparison with the continuous ratcheting game of Hitler’s Nazi Germany or Stalin’s Soviet Union is perfectly reasonable. In that, for the moment, anyhow.
So how does all the above, all of that, relate to my latest project?
The local wiki, chester.website, is an altruistic act on my part. Altruism maintains humanity, life, hope and the futures which should belong to everyone.
That’s why I do it, why I’ve done it in the past, why I’m doing it now. In order to remain strong enough to defend my wife and children; in order to keep a hold of the good part of life; in order to continue to reject its underbelly.
Austerity erodes people’s soapboxes: their desires to communicate; their confidence in being able to do so, in being valued for doing so, in even having a right to do so.
So if the big things are no longer within our reach, if the big things are being used to prevent us from speaking up, if we must jettison democracy’s right to speak out on major issues, if we must give up on our “one shot at happiness”, then at least let us, with the simplest of process, create spaces where kindness, solidarity and local neighbourliness can allow us to continue that appreciation of the good the world still holds.
For it is considerable, this good I mention; and wise, where it is to be found.